I was told much about Mother, some bad, but mostly good. She was one of those figures you just never forget. She had her area on the top dance floor of The Magnum Club, where she danced and god help anyone who stood in her place. She, drunk, lots, loved her drink and was always dressed immaculately, in clothes, others could only aspire too. She looked fantastic. When I think of those times, back in the 1990s, memories of Mum, always come flooding back.
Despite the difficulties and confrontation, Mother still carried on Carrying on. She would wear what the hell she liked and didn't give a damn what others thought. Her opinion of everyone was screamed loudly from the roof tops and indeed, if she didn't like you, she would make that as plain as day. People loved and hated her for it, but whatever your opinion, she always commanded respect from most people!
You have to remember back then, that most of us had no real family to speak of, having been rejected by parents, or left under the cloud of hate and denial. Mother Judd, kind of filled that matriarchal position, that so many of us craved. Yes Paul enjoyed life like the rest of us, but she also gave some of the best advice, I had ever been given. She had experience that none of us had at that age, and she always used her familiarity to guide and instruct others. I have to say, I took her advice, totally on every occasion. That is why I am with Jason today. Mother told me to take the plunge into the unknown and always go with what my heart told me. She was right! Thanks to her we are still together today!
A towering figure in Southampton, who was as fallible as the rest of us. She once told me, all she wanted, was to be loved and loved she was. Many of my generation, hold her in the highest regard. I personally miss those days, when life was hard, but friendships were strong. Without others knowing, she helped me out and was always there for a chat. I miss her dearly!
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