I am not used to having people like Melissa in my life, they are a rare breed. Despite not meeting, Melissa went out of her way to offer us both help at the most crucial times, during the bipolarcoaster of the last seven months. She saw the pain we were going through and was always there without exception. It wasn't until the day before our Wedding, that we finally met Ms King. She came over the night before, to spend the evening with us, keeping me company with Jay, while Jason was staying with his cousin. She had gone out of her way to make this day special for us. She made the Wedding book, that everyone signed, as well as gifts for all those who played a leading role in the day. At the time, money was tight and Melissa helped us in the best way she knew how, by producing the things that we could least afford at the time. She did so with style and of course with our sincere thanks.
Her talents didn't end there either, she took on the role of photographer, when our official one pulled out, due to a mix up in dates. That is the one thing I will be forever thankful for. I had visions of spending the whole way through the ceremony, having to take selfies, in order to produce, at least some record of the day, but she stepped in without a second thought. That is the true mark of friendship. Friendships can be equally as valid through the medium of Social Networking and since I spend the majority of my life facebooking, tweeting, linking, pinning and Grinding, it was a true epitaph to the modernity of life and the times we now live in. In many respects it offered validity to all the hours I spend on the net. True, lasting and meaningful friendships can be formed, people just need to use it wisely and honestly, as I hope I do now.
Again, Melissa's talents did not stop there either. I got an early night, the evening before the Marriage, during which time Melissa and Jay Greaves stayed up all night, to make us a Wedding Cake. We had expected not to have one, after circumstances changed, but these two did everything in their power, to make sure we did have a cake. Over everything else, that was the most emotional part of our day. Knowing that two people worked tirelessly, throughout the night, for no other reason, than respect for us and friendship, it was one of the kindest acts anyone has ever done for us. I will cherish that memory for all time. Words can never express how I felt over everyones acts of kindness in ensuring the 22 September went without a hitch. No drama or fights. Not only is that rare in my life, but also rare for Weddings in general. That is testimony, to everyone who attended, the respect they showed and the memories they helped create. In the end the right people were there and I have no regrets in removing anyone from our original list.
Melissa spent a weekend with us, not so long after the Wedding. She bought the photographs with her and I spent a very welcome three days in the company of someone, who did so much for us, getting to know them, from the inside out. Some days were more emotional than others, as we rattled over the issues that bought us to where we are, but she finally understood who we were and what had happened to us. Hard, cold facts, that sometimes others find difficult to understand, but in order to form bonds and friendships, the truth and its implications are important, she understood that fully.
Circumstances at a time of adversity has bought myself and Jason closer to those that matter, without exception. Getting to know Melissa, at such a distressing time, was hard to do, because in reality, she has only known us, as we are now. At times I just wanted to push people away, not let anyone new in, but building a friendship with this girl has been one of the best decisions of my life. It has taught me to trust others again and realise, that not everyone is the same. It has put my faith back into others, where there was none. It has shown me, that this is by no means the end for us, but rather the beginning of a new, trimmed down chapter, that has yet to be written, but when it is Melissa will have payed an important part in its words. Wherever we end up, like all those now close to us, Melissa King, brother of an old mate, battler and fighter, friend and selfless individual, will always have nothing but good memories to fill my head. Grateful, you bet, without her help, my bitterness towards everyone and life in general, may well have spent another twenty years eating me up inside. Cheers for being you and helping me to re write the beginning of the end, with positivity and hope!