By God, we have been through some rough times, since I have known you, haven't we old gal. I say 'old gal', because I feel like I have known you a lifetime. In fact I have experienced a lifetime and more, since being lucky enough to have you in my life. From that very first moment, when you were determined to beat every gay at Capri, on that fateful night, to he who shall remain nameless, I knew you were going to be a feisty one and that goes for your purple bra too. You achieved, what all us gays couldn't. Honestly, I am so glad it happened that way, because all of our lives would have been very different, had it not!
When I look back at a time, when you were going through so much pain, I suppose my opinion of you changed. You well and truly proved your credentials as a fighter and your determination, to do what was right for you and Imogen Rose, spoke volumes for you as a person. As I said feisty, but with a sense of moral duty also. Stopping you getting attacked by someone, who fooled me also, was something, I would do over and over again. Hit me if you will, but no man should ever lay a finger on a woman, least of all the Mother of his child. That was the time we bonded, that was the time I woke up and that is when I saw you for the courageous person you are.
We have had many other scrapes along the way and on every occasion, I would support you to the hilt, fully and unconditionally. You have to have gumption and pluck to bring a child into the World, on your own, it isn't easy, but as I know now, you made the right decision and you have a beautiful baby daughter to be thankful for. She is a credit to your abilities as a Mother and her quiet nature and well rounded upbringing, is something you should be proud of.
As I supported you at a difficult time in your life, you have supported me equally and more. When I was sedated, you were there, when I wasn't lucid, you stood by me, when I collapsed, you helped pick me up and when I needed someone to talk to, you listened. You have indeed been instrumental in my recovery. You have been there from day one, not wavered, respected our wishes and been a great source of inspiration. You became family, just like so many others from that time, but there was a big difference with you. You wanted us to play an important roll in the upbringing of Imogen Rose, you wanted us to spend as much time with Baba, for as long as we could and above all, you meant every word of it.
Neither Jason or I could have ever imagined, having a baby in our home, let alone bonding with her in the way we have. I know I am terribly apprehensive, when holding her, but that is in large part due to my lack of ability and understanding of the nature of infancy. I have never had to look after a child, in any sense or indeed cradle an infant, even in the limited way I have with Imogen, so for me this is a whole new process of enlightenment, that I have and continue to enjoy, every time I see her. I am no Jay Greaves and none of this is natural for me, but I am glad, you have given me the opportunity to experience having a small child in my life. It can only be a positive experience for me. Affording me the title of Gay Grandma was also a fabulous thing to offer, once again it displays the true nature of family, at a time when I have very little contact with mine. It gives one a sense of self worth, takes ones mind off pressing matters and makes one realise just how fragile life is. When I was Imogen's age, I never would have believed, my life would have crossed the paths it has and experienced the trials and tribulations it continues to do. Just make sure she doesn't end up like her Gay Grandma and in return I promise to be there for her lifetime, well as long as my own exists anyway.
Thank you for all your support, friendship and faith you have placed in me. Having you in my life, has made my troubles much easier to endure and your sheer guts and determination has also shown me, that now is the time, to stand up, be counted and fight, as much as you did, to achieve essentially the same goal. To afford protection to those you love for ever more. Love ya, my life is all the better for having you in it!