What a lovely surprise to see Sammy Buckley and Shelley Murton yesterday evening. It is always so nice to see friendly faces right now. It helps to block out the reality of life and focus on friendships.
I know all our friendships are going to change very soon. That is a scary thought for us. We have had some wonderful times with people, many of whom still remain friends.
It will be great to have the opportunity to say goodbye to everyone and our Wedding, but for those we will always hold dear to our hearts, quality time! We will miss everyone beyond measure.
For once I remained more or less composed. Talking about the issues around us at the moment, can bring out some extremely painful memories, but, I am learning to deal with each day as it comes. There will be plenty of time for tears on 22 September.
You know what Sam, I was trying to think how long I have known you, but my medication leaves me so addled and forgetful at the moment, that i will leave it up to you to remind me again.
You have always been the sweetest lad and always shown both Jason and I the utmost respect, so for that we are truly thankful. Many of us, lost much in recent times, but there are a few battlers and survivors who have at least tried to see beyond the stagnation that was setting in.
There will be much to remember Sam by. We always had great times with you, laughter and an ability to feel relaxed and comfortable in your company.
Bad words, bitching and manipulation were never an issue, when in each others company. these were words that others did to both us and you. If you have a good heart, you rarely even consider using such emotive and hurtful things.
You are one of the good guys and you always showed us kindness. Another person, who I will always remember for all the right reasons!
There has been a lot of people we haven't seen in a while and it is amazing to see the change in them and just how much they have grown, both in integrity and stature. It does make me feel old, but then i am old. I never believed I would see the day when hopeless expressions would turn into beaming smiles!
Dear Sammy. Thank you so much for remaining a friend, even through our darkest times. I miss working down the road from you and popping in for a coffee.
Even though things changed for many of us, it felt nice having a friendly face, not that far away.
I hope you achieve all you desire, and remember, you played a large part in our life and never once tried to attack us. That showed just what a decent lad you are.
We will keep in contact and always look back fondly at photographs like these. May life be good for you! x
I am so glad that we will be able to take these photo's with us to Spain. With everything else we have ever owned, slowly being sold or given away, it is important to have reminders of our time here in The UK and photo's are perfect. They will provide a lasting memory of everyone we held in high regard.
I know I moan a lot about the last few years, but they have produced some wonderful, enduring friendships as well, that I hope will stand the test of time!
Humbling and Reflective!
It is truly humbling to see so many of you, walking through our door now. As our date of departure gets ever closer and time ticks faster, both Jason and I become more and more reflective and emotional, so these visits, make our enduring pain, more easy to bear and show us, the best of human nature.
Loosing such wonderful friends, for the crimes of someone else, is hard to comprehend, but it is necessary, under the circumstances, to maintain what remains!
Just had another look at this photograph on the left. It really does show, just how we have all changed. I think Jason and myself have aged a lifetime, in such a short space of time. It is amazing what shock does to people. It does leave scars that need to be healed, far away from Southampton. You and Shelley look great. Time for you both will be a great healer!
Dear Shelley. It has only been a short while, but it has been a pleasure knowing both you and Jack. I hope you achieve your ambitions in life and succeed in all you do.
We will see you both at the Wedding. So glad you wanted to come and so glad we could accept you as friends on our day! x
Darren Vranjes, 43 years old, gay, partnered 20 years. Living in Southampton UK. Bipolar!