Despite not talking to my family, I have to say they always instilled morality in me as a matter of course. When all is said and done, I come from a decent family, who bought me up the best way they could. Without them, I'm sure I would have viewed life very differently. My father was a Socialist. He believed strongly in helping those less fortunate and made sure I knew it. He would go out of his way to express views on everything from Benefits to the rights of the disabled and ethnic minorities. For those reasons I can not fault my father.
He instilled in me a 'Moral Compass', something I could use in my everyday life, to insure that the path I was following was the right one. In my youth I campaigned for The Anti Nazi League, with my then partner at the time Martin. We went on demonstrations, in order to protect and fight for rights, as well as showing our revulsion at different campaigns of hatred. This was the early 1990s, before any minority group had any rights, that they enjoy today. There was a lot of violence against homosexuals as well as much more against ethnic minorities. I myself was attacked on many occasions for being gay and psychologically, it destroyed part of me inside. Just because I am gay, it doesn't make me any less a person. I was born that way, as were black people and those with challenging disabilities, that they had fought all their lives to overcome.
So what are morals? I believe we should all live by a set of rules, that keep ourselves and others safe from harm. Everyday you hear of someone who has been hurt, for no other reason than another persons gain. Just recently there was an acid attack in Southampton, in Guild Hall Square. Acid thrown in the face of a young girl. Apparently there was no motive for the attack, and that girl will be scared for life. Lets suppose for a minute, her attackers had not been caught and we knew who they were, should be tell the relevant authorities? even if they were family members? Well of course we should. We can not pick and choose when to dip in and out of our own moral compass. Neither should we chop and change it, to suit our own needs at any given time. Follow those rules, no matter what the consequences.
Like her, we are good people. She just happened to have a superior, who took a dislike to her and she suffered dramatically as a result. I have seen a fun loving, happy, stable young lady turned into a wreck of her former self. This upset me when I saw her. I didn't know what to do or say under those circumstances. I could only offer her advice, based on my own experiences in life. When I last spoke to her, she had resigned from her role. In my opinion that was a mistake, but completely understand why she did it. After all there is only so much we can take as human beings.
If she had sought the right advice at the time, had not been fobbed off and had really looked into what was going on and did her research, I feel things could have been different. None of us know how we are going to react under the worst of circumstances. If someone had spoken up on her behalf, exposed the lies and told the truth, no matter what the consequences, things may well have been very different. To find out that your best friend had gone through so much, with little or know help, is deflating at the very least
It takes a tough person to stand up to a bully, she wasn't. You have to be prepared for whatever is thrown your way, but what is the alternative? Well if you allow this behaviour to continue, long term, a culture of bullying and harassment will take route, become entrenched and be very difficult to overcome. You see this happening across many sectors every single day. Someone like me, who has suffered at the hands of bullies for being gay and learned to read the signs, as well as, hopefully learning from that experience, is lucky enough, stubborn enough and determined to stop it. If I could have helped I would have done. Everybody needs somebody and when everyone else around you is doing nothing, you have to stand up and be counted!